Knowing When to Quit

They say quitters never prosper but I disagree.

Sometimes, quitting is a good thing. It’s good to know when to walk away. From a situation, from a dead conversation, from a toxic relationship. There are so many appropriate moments when quitting/walking away/giving up is totally acceptable. But some of us (myself included) do not know when to say enough. Or rather, we know when to say enough but we choose to keep going anyway for whatever reason.

So this is the situation I am in.

There was someone I took an interest in. I don’t like to approach people but I took a chance. We hung out a few times and I like talking to him and spending time with him but I don’t think the feeling is mutual. One thing I absolutely cannot stand is initiating all conversations and always being the one to suggest meeting up.

Cannot stand it.

When I feel that the relationship (even though this is still more like an acquaintance because we aren’t even friends) is one sided, I will bow out. Completely. No warning given. First of all, I feel that I am too old to have to warn someone that I am about to dismiss myself from their life. Second of all, if I do bow out and you never approach me about why we don’t talk, if you don’t ask to meet up, if you don’t even tell me so much as hey every once in a while, how important was I to you in the first place?

That being said, I don’t want to say goodbye but it has to be done. I hate when my time is wasted and I also do not like to waste others’ time. If I mean nothing to you, if you don’t want to be my friend, if you don’t see us becoming something more please exit stage left or leave me alone if I choose to do so. At this age, I have no time for guessing games and stupid rules of society that determine how we interact, how often we interact, and who should do what when.

I’m dismissing myself from someone’s life and to be honest, I don’t think he’ll notice or care.

And I’m not okay with that, but I accept my decision.

The problem now is sticking to it.


To Assume or not to Assume….

What do you do when you feel like someone has an interest in you but you are not interested in them in the same way?

I mean, these are the types of situations that haunt my dreams. I have a hard enough time trying to conduct myself in social situations but awkward situations like this make me want to melt away like Alex Mac. I’m used to being on the other side; the one who has an interest that is not reciprocated. But this side is not any better.

I don’t want to hurt the person. I don’t like being the reason someone’s feelings get hurt though it’s inevitable. I mean, for all I know this is just his way of being nice and a really good friend.

But the signs are there….

I guess the best thing for me to do is sit back and enjoy the friendship. If he makes that left (and by making that left I do mean verbally admitting to me that he has feelings for me, or he likes me, or whatever), then I will deal with it then. Tell him that I love spending time with him and he’s a good friend, but that I don’t want anything more than a friendship.

I mean, on the opposite end I would want someone to be that honest with me. Does it hurt? Yes. But, I would rather be hurt with the truth than hurt with a lie.